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Tell Your Cat I Said...
Empathetic, friendly, and informative grief and end-of-life advice for pets...and people too.

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12
Aug
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How do I talk about grieving my girlfriend when not everyone knows I'm poly?

Finding language that encompasses the complexity of our lives is always challenging, but in grief, it can feel overwhelming.
7 min read
05
Aug
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What should I do if the worst happens to my son's dog while he's away at college?

My son is going to college and leaving his senior dog behind. I'm terrified that I might have to make a really hard choice without him.
7 min read
29
Jul
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Help! I need something to read!

Nine books about death and grief—that aren't here to tell you how to get over it—to add to your bookshelf.
4 min read
22
Jul
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Would I be letting my cat down if I didn't stay in the room for her euthanasia?

Being present, or not, at euthanasia can be a tough decision, but you should know you have a lot of options.
9 min read
15
Jul
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I miss having a dog, but I'm scared any new dog won't measure up to THE dog of my heart

No dog can replace another, but every dog is an opportunity to build a beautiful friendship.
7 min read
08
Jul
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I'm getting ready to move. What do I do with my dog's remains?

When you plant a lilac over a beloved canine companion, you usually assume that you, and it, will be there for life.
8 min read
01
Jul
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Guilt is eating me up: How do I find peace with it and celebrate my cat's time with me?

A reader is struggling with lingering guilt over end-of-life choices: How do you acknowledge those feelings without being consumed by them?
7 min read
24
Jun
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How do I help the surviving member of a bonded pair through her grief?

The answer to working with grief is always time, but there are some things that can help for a cat who's really missing a beloved friend.
7 min read
17
Jun
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How do I tiptoe into adopting a cat after loss?

I have some low-stress suggestions for exploring the possibility of adopting a cat without feeling like you're at a used car lot.
7 min read
10
Jun
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How do I volunteer at an animal shelter without taking them all home?

Animal shelters are filled with future best friends, but they don't all have to be YOUR best friend.
8 min read