Tell Your Cat I Said...
Empathetic, friendly, and informative grief and end-of-life advice, because we're all going through it.

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28
Oct
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A super what now?

My veterinarian used a term I've never heard before at my last appointment and I am flummoxed, baffled, and bewildered.
6 min read
21
Oct
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How do I tell an acquaintance that I think her rabbit is suffering?

It's hard to see an animal who clearly isn't well, and a guardian who seems oblivious.
6 min read
14
Oct
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Nobody wants my mom's stuff, but no one's willing to get rid of it.

How do I convince my family that I don't want to pay storage fees until the end of time?
6 min read
07
Oct
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My friend can't read the room and it's stressing everyone out

My fellow mourner's dark jokes as she fails to read the room are starting to test the limits of our friendship.
8 min read
30
Sep
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Not feeling it

An alcoholic estranged family member recently died and I'm tired of people policing my reactions.
6 min read
23
Sep
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My daughter is dying. How do I tell her brother?

I try to keep my children informed and involved about everything in our lives, but I'm struggling with how to tell my five-year-old that his sister is entering hospice.
8 min read
16
Sep
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How much pain is too much? And when has it gone on too long?

Cats are notorious for hiding their pain. How am I supposed to know when it's no longer possible to keep my cat comfortable and living his best life?
7 min read
09
Sep
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How do I get my coworker to shut up about my dog's cancer treatment?

I will absolutely lose it if my coworker tells me to cure my chihuahua's cancer with herbs and crystals one more time.
6 min read
02
Sep
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How do I handle grieving for a stranger?

I'm literally carrying someone else's heart. Should I reach out to my donor's family to thank them? And how can I possibly write that letter?
5 min read
26
Aug
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Cleaning up the social media graveyard

Half of us want to leave my uncle's social media up as a memorial. The other half want to take it down.
5 min read